BY ADEEBA FATIMA
Does love have a different meaning for everyone? Or is it the same with different coatings on it? In my opinion, it is the same with different coats.
Some get the beautifully wrapped version while some get the messy version with toxicity on the side. Either way, it is true love if you invest yourself entirely with no strings attached or no contingency plan if it goes sideways. It is like a deep sea, you have to dive into it to explore the beauty that is waiting at the bottom.
Sadly, the word “love” has been clichéd by our generation, it is sad how it has lost its importance. Nowadays, there is no passion between partners. They think enjoying each other’s company is all that is essential to love someone when there is so much more to it.
Love is not just about looks and personality. It is about respect and character, the amount of trust and patience to truly know someone and it is supposed to be a give and take relationship. If one gives too much and the other does nothing except take it, it is bound to end.
Love has such an alluring and entrapping call. The majority of people do not dive consciously, they fall so hard and when they gain consciousness, they find themselves swimming amidst dolphins and sharks.
When I say dolphins, I mean all the playful yet curious parts of love. But when I say sharks, I mean all the brutal yet bold and fearless bits of love. It is exciting how the feeling of being loved sends a rush of adrenaline and endorphins down the body which is why the heart races.
A sudden rush of conflicted feelings towards the partner, conflicted yet so crystal clear that your heart starts to plan out the next 50 years of your life. You see yourself growing old on a coast far away from the city, a beach house perhaps.
Every morning, you enjoy your coffee with your partner listening to the crashing waves. But then reality closes in on you. You are reminded of the deadline which you never met because life is not a fantasy, and you have to work to afford a beach house even after retirement.
Some live happily ever after even if it is not a luxurious after. But it is not the case for everyone. Failed love leaves a lot of open wounds which take years to heal. The betrayal of a partner, unrequited love, death of a partner, all leave a deep cut that never seems to close. People who have gone through heartbreak seem hopeless, especially after their first heartbreak. It is difficult to place all the feelings that have been left in the broken heart. It is stages of grief a person goes through after a heartbreak.
- Shock and denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
Each of these stages holds importance as you begin to understand why it was important to go through the heartbreak. As the famous poet, Rumi, once said,
“You have to break your heart until it opens.”
It might seem like the world is ending, that all hope is lost whenever you find yourself amidst heartbreak. There will come a time when you think that everything was so perfect when you were with the special someone, where did it go wrong? You might even end up questioning every decision you made, contemplating the reason for your existence, start blaming yourself for everything that went wrong, hating your guts.
But it will all make sense when time passes. It may seem impossible at the moment, but time heals everything. Life brings about many adventures which you never thought you would embark upon. But all of these adventures teach you a lesson that is necessary because you would not have grown to be the person you are if you did not choose the chaotic and adventurous path.
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
-Marilyn Monroe
(The author is a student at Iqra University. She is enrolled in BBA-H program. Her passion lies in encapsulating life experiences in words. She aspires to become a successful fictional writer. She can be reached at adeeba.fatima01@outlook.com)
