BY NEHAL ARBAB
Children who pertain from a broken family, wherein the family members are together yet disconnected, are constantly receiving very little affection and admiration which leads them to agony.
They start sensing sunken or empty thoughts and emotions, and they invariably keep looking for attention foremost inside the house and eventually from outsiders. A broken family does not indicate the ineptitude of a single parent, who in reality could ensure a great upbringing, but rather a family that stays under one roof yet seemingly does not behave like one be it abuse, disconnectedness, lack of attention, or other toxic traits.
Youngsters today grieving from depression and anxiety due to believed misery are unable to handle the absence of a loved caring figure or a mentor which naturally veers them around into the pessimists they tend to become.
Life is not the same for everyone but individuals who are undergoing such discomfort will always get envious of the blessed ones, and they start desiring and wishing the same sorrow upon the latter. Their influence becomes harmful to others. The anger towards their uncaring family that they have been suppressing all this while comes up in the form of unregulated mischief and unsupervised misdemeanor.
Mental illness as a social issue is in dire need of attention. Without mental peace, the human soul cannot feel any type of joy nor a will to live. Children due to lack of attention from their family, start seeking attention from nonnatives which makes them participate in harmful activities, sometimes even under peer pressure in an attempt to feel involved. At some point, they start living for others rather than for their own selves.
A broken family curbs one’s development and has other negative implications. They manifest similar expectations from their surroundings and their future. Expectations revolving around commitment relay from their past and thereby establishing new relationships understandably comes from historical repetition.
In the words of Carl Pickhardt, “Youngsters from broken families might create a negative state of mind toward connections and harbor sentiments of doubt, both toward their guardians and potential sentimental accomplices.”
Children from broken families are about five times more likely to endure harming mental inconveniences than those whose parents stay together. Offsprings from a disrupted environment are full of turmoil, often sentimental, and steered by uncontrollable emotion. They start getting involved in activities like substance abuse or bad company to seek peaceful solitude and attention. They start giving huge emotional reactions to minor occurrences. Their familial absence results in acquaintance with the bad.
They always seek forceful love and attention by committing unlawful acts. Their desperation for love sometimes turns into lust, often endangering someone else’s life by being their toxic self.
Young adults enduring such turmoil tend to suffer in their childhood as well as adulthood. At some point, they curb their growth and realize how their parents were responsible for the miserable future that lies in front of them. This in most cases is accompanied by anxiety, depression, other mental disorders, and unfortunately even suicidal thoughts. It is essential for new parents to understand how their actions are directly influencing the path their kids are led towards, and that the human brain absorbs and learns what is offered to it like a sponge.
Such misery and turmoil can be only be overcome with love, care, and affection towards the youngsters who demand and require friendly association. With proper guidance and counseling, one can come out of this pothole. It is necessary to understand that life does not end with a bump in the road. It is a journey that you have to consistently endure and learn from. (Edited by Khadijah Kamili)
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